A friend of mine had a bad news today, one of her relatives died. The person who died was fairly young, 45, died of a brain tumor. She was a wife and mother of couple of kids. The most heart rending situation is for the parents of the deceased to see their young child pass away leaving behind her young children.
No doubt, this would change the world for everyone in the family more so for the young kids and the husband. It was a sad moment but then the moment would pass as it always does.
It’s true the grief for the loss is directly proportional to the closeness you have with the person or thing you have lost. For a moment it does seem the world has crashed and come to stand still, especially for the immediate kin. But then again it’s a moment and it passes, as it always does. And the world didn’t come to end, it just changed.
The hard fact of life is that it goes on. People soon get back to their own normal routine and life as if it never happened. The difference maybe the amount of time different people might take to get back to normal. Even for the immediate kin who grieve at their loss, time is a great healer. Eventually they too come out of it or get used to the new situation. Either way they too have no option but to carry on.
This is the biggest irony of life. You are till you are (alive). And sooner you realize it better it is. It helps you carry on. Of course, it does sound very cold and unfeeling, if you look at it from another perspective, but that’s how it is. If you look at it from a macro point of view, we a re just like everything else in this world. We are born, we grow and strive to survive and then eventually die doing that. But nothing changes, world keeps on moving as it was. We are just too engrossed in our struggle for survival, that we forget that it’s all a part of the bigger picture where things are pretty simple and similar all across. Time never stops and world keeps moving. Life goes on.
You gotta accept that the life goes on within you and without you – The Beatles